I had a controlling older sister. She was obsessed with books and didn’t feel safe or comfortable in her own skin. At times, I felt she was using me against me. In other words, she wasn’t on my side. I didn’t want to be that way with my sister because I knew it would hurt my relationship with my mom.
Ive told this story before, but it’s something I heard from my brother in law a few months ago. As a young boy he was the only one in his family who didn’t have an older sister. He was raised by his single mom and his older brother who were very controlling. His older brother was often verbally abusive, and he was often in a very bad mood. He was also very controlling, but he was also very caring.
I think this is where I’m kind of confused. I can understand the concept of a controlling older sister, but I have no idea if this is even true of my sister.
She is actually a very loving and caring person who has always shown me love in a very caring way. She is also very controlling. However, she was very strict when she was younger and still is, but her controlling behavior now is a bit more like a strict disciplinarian. I think this is where I get confused.
It’s true that some controlling older sisters can be very controlling. However, it’s also true that some controlling older sisters are also very kind. This can be a good thing. Our older sister is very caring and loving, but she is also very controlling. She will do anything to try to make her younger sisters feel better about themselves. She will do anything to make her younger sisters feel better about themselves.
I get how it is hard to try to please your older sister, but at the same time, her controlling behavior can be necessary to her own well being. Many times, controlling older sisters don’t like to feel like they’re being controlled, but they still do and it can make things worse as a parent.
You can tell when older sisters are controlling because they control you to keep themselves from doing something that would feel good about themselves. A lot of time, that can just as easily be your mother. They might not be aware theyre doing it, but they do it anyway. A lot of the time, it’s not even conscious. Most people dont even realize they’re controlling them.
The most common way for older sisters to be controlling us is when they tell us to do something that would feel really good about themselves. But this is one of those situations where its hard to tell if its actually conscious. We just have to trust that they really want us to do what they want.
I have to admit that I’ve done this. My sisters have been a huge pain in the ass. I get the feeling that they have very little regard for me and the other kids in my life, but I never really gave them the time of day. I used to try and tell them that I wanted to be a better husband and father, but I’ve always been really reluctant to give them the time of day. It’s probably because of this that they have been controlling my life.
I think the fact that Ive been told a lot about how I’m supposed to treat my sisters is a pretty big hint that there may be a controlling part of my personality, for better or worse. It could be a good thing or a bad thing, but whether it’s good or bad, I don’t know. The best I can be is that I know what I cant do and I know what I can do.
